Ines Hoffmann ran: This is my first run ...

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  • 4 miles
  • 00:39 time
  • 10:15 pace
  • 411 calories
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  • 1289 ft climb
  • 0 max hr
  • 0 avg hr
    • Currently /5 Effort.
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blah Grey skys, and even darker mood 6.1 km 00:39 10:15 pace

This is my first run out on the road in I don't know how long and this run was badly needed and made me feel a little better.
Breaking up with someone is hard, and even harder if you still love this person and it's not what you want. However, after not turning up at Christmas and now again at Easter, there is just no point to continue down this route. Life is just too short to waste a lot of emotional energy on someone that at the end of the day doesn't want to share the same life. You could point out that I am a bit of a slow learner and should not have gone back after Christmas to end up in the same place again a few month down the line. Why did I do that? Well, to that question I have no and a million and one answers.
Happy Easter everyone and thanks for listening to my rambling.

  • Rosalyn R.
    Rosalyn R.

    Great work, Ines! Excellent pace too.

    over 2 years ago Like

  • Marina
    Marina

    Aw, Ines, that is rough. I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling right now. Running is awesome therapy so it's good you got out there. I find equine therapy to be just as good, too. :) Hugs for you from over here, hang in there my friend. xoxo

    over 2 years ago Like1 person

  • Ruth H.
    Ruth H.

    I 'didnt know you'd gone back with him!We've all done it Ines.You had your reasons,but,sometimes love just isnt enough.Better now than later.I confess I wouldnt consider another relationship - my marriage was hard work - I would need to be swept off my feet & given the lump I am - its unlikely!!Good for you starting to run again,go for Dublin!!If I can you can!!Chin up & know you're strong!x

    over 2 years ago Like3 people

  • Ines H.
    Ines H.

    @ Marina. Equine therapy certainly helps, got no choice but get up in the morning and feed the ponies.
    @ Ruth. You are right, better a horrible ending than endless horror. I will have a look at marathon training plans and see if I could get there with 4 sessions per week. The horses are quiete time consumning and I would like to do a few endurance rides as well. Plus I will be having busy few month ahead, findind accomodation for me and the horses and moving, but I keep you posted.

    over 2 years ago Like2 people

  • Brian W.
    Brian W.

    sorry thing have not worked out for you in the way you wanted them to. You have had a difficult time of things for quite a while now. I hope things start to get better in your life now. A great run under the circumstances.

    over 2 years ago Like1 person

  • Alexandra W.
    Alexandra W.

    Ruth is right, we've all made that mistake, it must be just part of being human. SO painful! I am currently living the best years of my life without a relationship. Wouldn't even consider being swept off my feet - IMO that would be certifiable on my part! But of course, Ines, you may now be on your way to a really happy partnership - we aren't all meant to be happy hermits like me. You can run a marathon on 3 sessions per week - see Jeff Galloway - but of course you wouldn't win! Best wishes!

    over 2 years ago Like4 people

  • Penrhyn David Y
    Penrhyn David Y

    As just a simple man I didn't know about this. Doh! I should say that your comment "horrible ending - endless horror" puts it better than I ever could. You are clearly a very intelligent individual and, with the support of your friends, I am sure you will come out of this an even more amazing person!

    over 2 years ago Like1 person

  • Ruth H.
    Ruth H.

    Yep - I run 3 times a week- i know I cycle & circuits too,but,you will need to keep up the swimming which you enjoy.

    over 2 years ago Like

  • Ines H.
    Ines H.

    @ Henning. For some reason I can't "like" your post, but you are right this decision was well overdue.
    @ Alexandra. I will look at the Jeff Galloway plan and I have no intention of winning just completely. And I tend to agree sticking around as long as I tend qualifies as certifiable on my part, so maybe I fall into the hermit or "old bag" category.

    over 2 years ago Like

  • Barbara K.
    Barbara K.

    Dang...we have all done this! Chin up..keep moving! You will find someone who deserves you! I strongly recommend Jeff Galloway's plan..it works so well! Hugs to yoU!

    over 2 years ago Like1 person

  • Ruth H.
    Ruth H.

    Ive got Galloways "run til youre 100"!! As I intend too!!Hes good - but so is Hal Higdon

    over 2 years ago Like1 person

  • Alexandra W.
    Alexandra W.

    Ines, sticking around too long is one stage (I remember it well, wish I didn't) and happy hermit is quite another. I'm not sure if all hermits have to pass through stage 1, but not all stickers are destined to be hermits. There is a way of life (in or out of a relationship) which will suit you best - the challenge is to find it.

    over 2 years ago Like1 person

  • Alexandra W.
    Alexandra W.

    Ruth, I've got "run til youre 100" too. IMO Higdon is more of a real runner's writer, Galloway is more sympathetic to penguins like me.

    over 2 years ago Like

  • Hashi2
    Hashi2

    Running is the best therapy. Nice run today, Ines. Whenever I've struggled with a difficult situation involving a relationship (friends,family, Spouse) I read this poem because it always helps:
    http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=10150270924652782

    over 2 years ago Like1 person

  • Rina M.

    The end of a relathionship is a death. Might sound grim, but that's the way I see it. You will need to live through all the emotions that go along with a loss, an end to something that you wanted to keep alive but had no way of doing it by yourself. Stay strong Ines! (((((HUGS))))) lol

    over 2 years ago Like

  • Jacob J.
    Jacob J.

    I'm sorry that things have been so rough. It sounds like you did everything that was in your power to do, and that's all that anyone can do. I hope things move forward for you as much as possible.

    over 2 years ago Like

  • Azaka R.
    Azaka R.

    Glad u got to get out there! Great run!!! Sorry about the rough times. Hope things get better for u soon.

    over 2 years ago Like

  • Vern M.
    Vern M.

    Sorry to hear this, Ines. I remember you have made brief mention of several disappointments in the past. Making the break is difficult, and it's only natural to give it every reasonable chance to improve. Sounds like a good decision-- you deserve so much better than that. Hope the run helped you sort things out as you prepare to move on. Hang in there!

    over 2 years ago Like

  • Kris G.
    Kris G. Feel Better
    Feel Better:

    I'm so sorry, Ines. That is so difficult. I pray the Lord wraps you up in his love and helps you walk this through. Or run it, if that helps more.

    over 2 years ago

  • Henning
    Henning Congrats
    Congrats:

    sounds like you finally made a decision, here. so here's my "congrats" instead of a "feel better".

    over 2 years ago

  • Joy M.
    Joy M. Feel Better
    Feel Better:

    Great run, Ines! As to the relationship situation, I can be pretty stupid about that kind of thing too. It's tough when you have to move on. I'm glad you're strong enough to break it off when you know it's hurting you. Best wishes!

    over 2 years ago

  • Rina M. Nice Job
    Nice Job:

    On another note. Here is the registration link to Dublin. http://dublinmarathon.ie/entry_details.php You me and Ruth can do this together. Think about it. :+)

    over 2 years ago

  • Francesca
    Francesca Nice Job
    Nice Job:

    Very nice run. Glad it helped the mood.

    over 2 years ago

  • Natasha H.
    Natasha H. Feel Better
    Feel Better:

    Sorry to hear about your relationship. However hard it is at the moment, I hope you also feel some relief for making this tough decision and moving on. Wishing you strength in the coming times, and plenty of happiness in the future.

    over 2 years ago