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Well, that's an easy one for me. Running isn't a career for me, it's an exercise. So I'd stick with my wife, and get fat.
posted almost 3 years ago
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My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I'm lucky that I don't have to choose, I get both. Bev is coming with me to Austin for the marathon weekend.
I think if you have to choose between a relationship and your life's passion, you might not have met the right person.
posted almost 3 years ago
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if someone made you choose between running and themselves they aren't worth it-ditch 'em
posted almost 3 years ago
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running. someone who loves (or really likes) you will run after you, and maybe even pass you up.
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Jane D. said:if someone made you choose between running and themselves they aren't worth it-ditch 'em
Good answer!
posted almost 3 years ago
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I agree with John.
If the person I was with forced me to make that decision, I probably wouldn't want to be with them in the first place. Ideally, you'd want someone you could share your passion with. It doesn't have to be that they are your training partner, but that they understand and accept why you run.
posted almost 3 years ago
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There are lots of people out there to snuggle with. You only have one body.
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Kelly K. said:I agree with John. If the person I was with forced me to make that decision, I probably wouldn't want to be with them in the first place. Ideally, you'd want someone you could share your passion with. It doesn't have to be that they are your trai... read more
I completely agree. Someone who would make you choose between something as satisfying and healthy as running is probably not the right person. I personally find ultimatums of any kind to be kind of harsh and severe.
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Mateo N. said:running. someone who loves (or really likes) you will run after you, and maybe even pass you up.
I'm definitely not going to tell your wife you said this :)
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Apollo L. said:There are lots of people out there to snuggle with. You only have one body.
I completely agree!
posted almost 3 years ago
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I would never date a dude who would request or expect me to stop running on account of him. I have dated guys in the past who would tell me I was "obsessed" and what have you, but that's just because they were lazy, I could out run them and ultimately, I just plain had bigger muscles then them ;)
I never ever settle for less and absolutely refuse to change myself for anyone.
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Kristen F. said:I would never date a dude who would request or expect me to stop running on account of him. I have dated guys in the past who would tell me I was "obsessed" and what have you, but that's just because they were lazy, I could out run them ... read more
right on!
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Johnny H. said:My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I'm lucky that I don't have to choose, I get both. Bev is coming with me to Austin for the marathon weekend. I think if you have to choose between a relationship and your life's passion, you might... read more
I agree.
Running is far from my career - but I think that if a person makes you choose between them and anything that you love doing, that at some point there will be resentment in the relationship.
I run, hubby golfs. Sometimes I go to the driving range or play 9 holes, and sometimes he is at my races or does a 5k. You have to make compromises not concessions.
posted almost 3 years ago
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It is not an either or question for me - it is an AND!
posted almost 3 years ago
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If the girl wasnt into supporting a healthy lifestyle and hobby, she's junk anyway so I'd move on. :)
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Kristen F. said:I would never date a dude who would request or expect me to stop running on account of him. I have dated guys in the past who would tell me I was "obsessed" and what have you, but that's just because they were lazy, I could out run them ... read more
Oh, I don't refuse to change myself for anyone.
You think I look sexy in the black? I'll wear the black for you, baby.
Stop working out, though? There's a reason I look sexy in the black. I'll find someone who understands the reason.
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Apollo L. said:There are lots of people out there to snuggle with. You only have one body.
haha. right on . . .
posted almost 3 years ago
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in reply to what Kathy S. said:I'm definitely not going to tell your wife you said this :)
lol, i showed her already! she took it out on me during Krav class tonight.
posted almost 3 years ago
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Man, thanks for all the great responses! This is such an interesting and controversial question, and I know couples have even gotten divorced over it.
Just a heads up, I blogged about y'all: http://www.kathyruns.com/
posted almost 3 years ago
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I wonder why in the first place anyone would even care he or she runs, or bikes, or even plays an occasional game of checkers for that matter. If said person is so worried about what the other is doing, that sounds more like a personal problem of insecurity.
posted almost 3 years ago
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This! With the right person, no choice is necessary.
posted almost 3 years ago
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I just read Coach Jay's tip of the week, and it's semi-relevant: http://insidenikerunning.nike.com/2009/02/09/coach-jay-tip-of-the-week-13/
"If you’re training to become a better runner then you need at least one person—and hopefully several—who are genuinely supportive of your aspirations and the training that you’re doing to achieve your goals. This does not have to be a significant other, but you do need to have someone who is part cheerleader, part confidant and part bobblehead. Part bobblehead? Well, sometimes a runner simply needs affirmation that getting up at 6am on Saturday to fully digest a breakfast before their 8am long run—which could be a 100 minute run, ending with 15 minutes of general strength—makes sense. Support doesn’t necessarily have to come in the form of empathy to be beneficial, though you’ll no doubt get sympathy from your supporter when you complain about not being able to walk up a flight of stairs without your quads burning. So find a person that will support your training—it’s an important part of being able to challenge your athletic limits."
Supporting a running is (apparently) something that I'm interested in, I've written about it before (http://www.kathyruns.com/148/what-is-it-to-support-a-runner/). I love the bobblehead role - definitely need one of those in my life. I have too many people telling me that I should either stay in bed and sleep in, or go out for a beer after work at happy hour - both cut into my running time!
posted almost 3 years ago
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My coworkers used to ask why I don't go to the bar downstairs with them after work. I have workouts to do 45 miles away. Oh, and I don't drink alcohol. I think a few of them were trying to do the 100 pushups thing for a while, but most of them aren't athletes, except once in a while when they want to "get back into it."
I'm a little unusual, though. I post my CF WOD results on my twitter and the CrossFit comments (and here and traineo and other places), but I don't think any of my friends really cares. I don't have any bobbleheads and my supporters are usually the other people on the dancefloor hollering "WOO" when I do my thing on weekends.
I keep trying to get some of my friends to come do an easy workout with me, but they're a little intimidated. I guess I should make more athlete friends.
posted almost 3 years ago
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Unless your partner's passion is unhealthy (and that word has many functional meanings), why would you not support them? I can see an arguement for leaving behind the Skoal Bandits for a girl, but I can't imagine that someone would have enough of a problem with an exercise routine to lay down the ultimatum.
Certainly different phases of life dictate more or less of a good thing (I've got a 1 yr old and a 4 yr old, so my running has rightfully suffered), but that's all part of keeping your passions in check and not allowing the desires to trump the necessities.
I guess luckily for me, the wife and I are a lot alike. Running is a shared passion. I think - for more reasons than just the running - I chose well.
posted almost 3 years ago
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I think if you was with the right person you wouldnt be asked to choose. they should understand that running is your pasion and also what helps define you and make you happy with yourself meaning able to love yourself for who you are and if they take that away after awhile you will resent them for it.
posted almost 3 years ago
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This is ultimately a question of what you consider to be ultimate. I would guess that your significant other is not just purposing this ultimatum out of no where. Somewhere along the way running has taken from time with them. Apparently quality time is important to them. So I think there is two questions to ask yourself. One " Do I value relationships or running more"? If Its running then you have your answer. If it's people and relationship, then learning to run and still provide that person with the things they need is key. Its not a one or the other game. Can you improve the quality of the time you do spend with them already? Is there other things that get in your way other than running that can be cut? Is running causing a significant unbalance in your life.? I am not a runner per say. I'll run a couple events a year just to say I did it but I am absolutely an athlete. I spend at least a 2 hours a day 5X a week and more on the weekend training for some match, run, crossfit event, etc. Furthermore my wife is a psychologist that values quality time very much. I have found that it is definately a balancing act but one that can be managed. So train hard and Love hard. One with out the other, in my opinion, sucks!
posted almost 3 years ago
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If someone makes you choose between running and them then they don't truly 100 percent care about you and aren't worth it. It is part of the sport to discipline the balance the love of running with the love of someone else.
posted almost 3 years ago
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